Molested .. if u refer the Thesaurus in the word for the meaning of da word Molested.. u l get 9 meanings for this word.. it has that kinda power to do harm to others..
Yes.. this wil be all about the Molestations. I recently watched a the Opera talk show n learnd a lot about child molesters and thought to share the thoughts with you..
First question is .. have u ever been molested ? are u a victim of molestation.. ? Its said that most of the time the child doesn’t knw whether he / she is been or was molested. I wil tell you why is that..
In this program she was talking to 4 child molesters.. belive me there were no age limit those men.. ok they should rot in hell.. but let me get back to what I wanted to write.. I will list down some important facts about this topic
1. Negligence of the parents
Remember as a child how much u wanted your parents to notice you ? Appreciate you? When you do something nice for the first time how much u wanted to share that experience with your parents ?
What happens when you don’t get the attentions you wants ? It has been found out that most the time a child is molested becz the parents r too busy to take care of them.. when the parents are too busy with running behind money and world they forget WHY they are running.. it ultimately results in neglecting the child, which in returns opens an opportunity for the predator (or the molester) to get his /her hands on the little one..
Not only the busy corporate parents, there are parents who are drunk from morning to night.. who are on drugs, prostitution, etc., they have no idea what their children are going tro.. n in some cases.. some parents don’t love their children for no reason.. they just don’t..
2. Who are the molesters ?
A survey has shown that 90% of the time the molesters are people whom we know.. it could be a parent, a sibling, a relative, a family friend, a neighbor, a teacher, a school van driver etc., you knw the list..
Its very easy for a adult to find out that if a child is upset over something.. they are not actors… they are these innocent little creatures (I meant it in a good way) who wil express what they feel.. so if any of the pple who are inda LIST notice such thing then bang.. they start to pray..
3. How do they pray?
When they see a child who wants to be noticed, they first gain the trust of the child.. at first it can be a friendly smile , a comforting word, a sweet treat, a gift etc., they start out by reaching to grab their innocent heart.. and the they will unleash their wickedness..
Even adults needs someone to listen when they have a problem.. they need to hear a comforting word.. but even they cant have it, adults can handle it.. but a child cant handle it.. that’s why we call them kids.. so when a person reaches out with a friendly gesture, a child only read one side of this persons motives..
When u gain the trust of someone or when u trust someone you will trust tht person to do you right n in return u do the same.. Sadly its not the same of the children who trust the molesters.. ones these animals gain the trust of an innocent child then they clim up the ladder and work their way tro..
4. How to protect your kids ?
In most of the situations it has been found out that the children don’t knw that they are been molested.. so its upto the parents to find out whats going on with their child’s life.. although the children doesn’t knw that fact they do show the symptoms.. if your child has changed his or her behavior it’s a clear sign that something is definitely isn’t right.. do parents please pay attention to them.. if you notice such change ask them over n over till they tell you the truth..
In some cases even babies have gone tro such things.. one case which I saw was a nanny.. mind you it’s a female nanny.. she has molested nearly 20 babies including her youngest daughter.. n how sick is that ? I felt sick to my stomach.. U stil wants a nanny ?
At times these children are been threatened by their molesters, so the child tend not to tel their story to anyone.. so its upto the parents to get the real and right information.. not only the parents if you are a good neighbor and if you see a change your next door kid in a bad way.. inform the authorities.. at least it will give you a peace of mind one day for doing the right thing..
With some surfing I found the below facts.. the signs of molestation
Look out for these common signs of child molestation, if you think your child is not being himself of late:
- Sudden change in behavior like crying or losing temper without provocation. Showing increased timidity or fearfulness. Withdrawal from family and friends.
- Regression to infantile behavior like bed wetting and/or sucking thumb.
- Disrupted sleep pattern. Fear of the dark or having nightmares.
- Expressing affection to adults or peers in ways that have sexual undertones.
- Unexplained rashes, bruises or injuries.
- Stained or torn underwear.
- The biggest tell tale signs are the health of the genitals. Vaginal or rectal bleeding, sexually transmitted disease, swelling, itching or pain in the genitals without any apparent accident that could cause injury, are strong indicators of sexual abuse.
- Unusual interest in knowing about matters related to sex.
- Change in eating habits.
- Disruptive behavior and failing in school.
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Interact with your kids.. talk to them.. love them.. take care of them.. next time if you kid comes running to you with something.. stop n listen..
Think twice before you leave your baby or the children with anyone cz a molester can be among them.. are u ready to do your part of the job? HOPE SO !!!
