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Monday, August 2, 2010

Got molested ?


Molested .. if u refer the Thesaurus in the word for the meaning of da word Molested.. u l get 9 meanings for this word.. it has that kinda power to do harm to others..

Yes.. this wil be all about the Molestations. I recently watched a the Opera talk show n learnd a lot about child molesters and thought to share the thoughts with you..

First question is .. have u ever been molested ? are u a victim of molestation.. ? Its said that most of the time the child doesn’t knw whether he / she is been or was molested. I wil tell you why is that..


In this program she was talking to 4 child molesters.. belive me there were no age limit those men.. ok they should rot in hell.. but let me get back to what I wanted to write.. I will list down some important facts about this topic

1. Negligence of the parents

Remember as a child how much u wanted your parents to notice you ? Appreciate you? When you do something nice for the first time how much u wanted to share that experience with your parents ?

What happens when you don’t get the attentions you wants ? It has been found out that most the time a child is molested becz the parents r too busy to take care of them.. when the parents are too busy with running behind money and world they forget WHY they are running.. it ultimately results in neglecting the child, which in returns opens an opportunity for the predator (or the molester) to get his /her hands on the little one..

Not only the busy corporate parents, there are parents who are drunk from morning to night.. who are on drugs, prostitution, etc., they have no idea what their children are going tro.. n in some cases.. some parents don’t love their children for no reason.. they just don’t..

2. Who are the molesters ?

A survey has shown that 90% of the time the molesters are people whom we know.. it could be a parent, a sibling, a relative, a family friend, a neighbor, a teacher, a school van driver etc., you knw the list..

Its very easy for a adult to find out that if a child is upset over something.. they are not actors… they are these innocent little creatures (I meant it in a good way) who wil express what they feel.. so if any of the pple who are inda LIST notice such thing then bang.. they start to pray..

3. How do they pray?

When they see a child who wants to be noticed, they first gain the trust of the child.. at first it can be a friendly smile , a comforting word, a sweet treat, a gift etc., they start out by reaching to grab their innocent heart.. and the they will unleash their wickedness..

Even adults needs someone to listen when they have a problem.. they need to hear a comforting word.. but even they cant have it, adults can handle it.. but a child cant handle it.. that’s why we call them kids.. so when a person reaches out with a friendly gesture, a child only read one side of this persons motives..

When u gain the trust of someone or when u trust someone you will trust tht person to do you right n in return u do the same.. Sadly its not the same of the children who trust the molesters.. ones these animals gain the trust of an innocent child then they clim up the ladder and work their way tro..

4. How to protect your kids ?

In most of the situations it has been found out that the children don’t knw that they are been molested.. so its upto the parents to find out whats going on with their child’s life.. although the children doesn’t knw that fact they do show the symptoms.. if your child has changed his or her behavior it’s a clear sign that something is definitely isn’t right.. do parents please pay attention to them.. if you notice such change ask them over n over till they tell you the truth..

In some cases even babies have gone tro such things.. one case which I saw was a nanny.. mind you it’s a female nanny.. she has molested nearly 20 babies including her youngest daughter.. n how sick is that ? I felt sick to my stomach.. U stil wants a nanny ?

At times these children are been threatened by their molesters, so the child tend not to tel their story to anyone.. so its upto the parents to get the real and right information.. not only the parents if you are a good neighbor and if you see a change your next door kid in a bad way.. inform the authorities.. at least it will give you a peace of mind one day for doing the right thing..

With some surfing I found the below facts.. the signs of molestation

Look out for these common signs of child molestation, if you think your child is not being himself of late:

  • Sudden change in behavior like crying or losing temper without provocation. Showing increased timidity or fearfulness. Withdrawal from family and friends.
  • Regression to infantile behavior like bed wetting and/or sucking thumb.
  • Disrupted sleep pattern. Fear of the dark or having nightmares.
  • Expressing affection to adults or peers in ways that have sexual undertones.
  • Unexplained rashes, bruises or injuries.
  • Stained or torn underwear.
  • The biggest tell tale signs are the health of the genitals. Vaginal or rectal bleeding, sexually transmitted disease, swelling, itching or pain in the genitals without any apparent accident that could cause injury, are strong indicators of sexual abuse.
  • Unusual interest in knowing about matters related to sex.
  • Change in eating habits.
  • Disruptive behavior and failing in school.

Interact with your kids.. talk to them.. love them.. take care of them.. next time if you kid comes running to you with something.. stop n listen..


Think twice before you leave your baby or the children with anyone cz a molester can be among them.. are u ready to do your part of the job? HOPE SO !!!

Heloooow… Life….


Missed me ? Hope so….

Man its been such a LONG time for a new entry inda blog isn’t it ? oh well in a mood today to write a one so here goes nothing..

Recapping.. resigned from the job.. long story short at home these days.. n u knw its not boring at all.. yea yea.. at times I wish I was working.. but kinda loving the home n company …

Its almost to da end of the year n life treated me with ups n downs.. isn’t that da same story getting repeated ? I guess so.. but come to think of it.. Life is new.. n I am happy.. so much in love.. so change doesn’t need to happen ..


Couldn’t meet up with da gals for a long time also.. I hope they are doing fine… talking abt friends, one of school mates (Shammie) came for a stay over at my place… Friday night.. n we talked til .. err .. 5am on sat.. that’s right.. I also didn’t notice that we talked that long.. all the things we missed during the last 10 years.. guez we had lot covered.. n shamz went back to NZ to finish da studies so wish da dude allda best…


Ope..yea.. I v been called that .. but hey im a girl for a fact and yes I love to knw the gossips.. hehe .. don’t we all ? wel we do.. if we hear our neighbors fighting.. we lower our voices and volumes to listen to wt they are saying.. it doesn’t hv to be a fight.. anything which goes over the HOME limit we tend to listen very carefully ..if u knw wt I mean.. honestly I hate fights… belive me I knw how it feels to be caught in da middle of those..


Well… it’s a wrap I think about the life in short… looking forward to next few months.. n so exited for sis.. if u knw wt I mean.. J … big change in her life is coming up and that too in the best month of da year.. hehe..well may the Triple gem protects her..


All do tc.. adios.. !!

Wednesday, April 28, 2010

Knock Knock... !!


The word Murder always fascinates me.. alwys thought what a perfect murder would be like.. how can a person get away with something so sinister …


Since I have a little free time these days I get a chance to watch most of the forensic/ detective stuff on Fox Crime. ..well my all time favorite is CSI (Crime Scene Investigation). But lately took an interest in watching Dextor.. yea the story about the serial killer..


Dextor Morgen works as the forensic investigator attached to Miami PD. The only difference is that he kills people.. not just ordinary people.. bt the ones who have committed crime.. well he chose to dissect the body parts, wrap them in disposal bags and dump them in the sea.. which were later tumbled upon by some treasure hunting crew.. oh well.. Dex is about to get screwed up.. but hey.. I’m guessing he will find his way..


That is just a story but what about in real life ? ever hear of the Serial killer named Zodiac ? seen the movie ? I don’t know why he killed but it’s the after math of his crimes made me wonder.. it seemed that he randomly selected his victims, and the funny thing is after words he sends a letter to the PD with the details of how he did it … search the web with “Zodiac Killer” and you will find out what im talking about.. yea, there is a sketch of him given by a stabbed victim who survived his attacks.. it was obvious that he wanted the media to make a movie about him and his work and it came true.. “ I want you to make a movie about me one day.. and im waiting to see who plays my role” – Creepy.. !


Well im guessing that he is someone who might be in the vicinity, not hiding, may be someone who is out there right in front in plain sight.. who knows.. wel who cares..


FYI – he was never found or captured.. n don’t worry he isn’t in ur back yard.. so sleep tight..

Why do people kill ? I can think of few reasons as to why.

1. To protect themselves

2. To find pleasure in it / adrenaline rush

3. To get revenge or avenge someone’s death ..

4. To become famous which falls under Mentally Ill category

5. Last but not least doing it under the influence of liquor or drugs for no good reason..

I don’t think I need to explain the above categories to any of you… but yes I would like to get inside of a serial killers mind just to find out what really drove them to such extremes .


No one is born a killer/ murderer.. So what went wrong ? how did they become such monsters ?

I have seen the programs where they show how a person is driven to committee such violence.. the major issue which causes this is the negligence of the parents.. no serious follow up on the child’s life.. do u remember the last time you sat with ur parents talking about your problems ? have you ever done that ? have they ever asked you ? did they even care ? I heard over the radio once that children turn to the internet to find advice to their personal problems.. hmm… hmmm… what a shame..


Well. remember the times where u saw on tv a kid showering bullets at a school or a uni.. parents say that they never see it coming .. said that the kid behaved normal and nothing abnormal ..they had it coming didn’t they ? well.. cant blame them also cz with the rush of work and life they forget to take care whats important to them..

Well if I want to blame I can blame the media in a way also.. the publicity they give to these murderers drive some lunatics to draw a gun or knife an innocent person on the way.. just to be in the spot light .. but there is alwys two sides to each story so media can justify by saying we were just doing our job.. to inform the public of the danger they are in.. so I guz I have to agree to that part also..


So why do we still hear about murderers ? isn’t the justice system working ..? u n I both know the answer to that question now don’t we.? u knw, whn there was a trend here in SL, killing innocent kids for ransom or over a family dispute I love .. I mean I LOVE the way the public behaved.. yea.. by chopping of the criminals body parts .. sending a clear message to all those freak shows out there what will be inline for them if they do the same..


Oh lets just wish that the word murder to get erased from our lives forever..


So the big Question..- Is there a murderer in you ? KILL IT !!

Sunday, January 3, 2010

Wel .. its da Nw yr..



Twenty ten..

First blog entry …

Time 7.35 pm…

At home…


Hmmm… its been 3 days after the new year and here I am again writing the new blog entry for the year 20Ten.. Doesn’t it sounds niz.. 20Ten..

Wt a yr 2009 been… it was a mix year for me.. lots of happy memories and some bad ones too… I have made some major bad decisions which made a heart ache but it did changed da coast and went in the right track… im so sorry for all those bad and sad incidents.. i didn’t mean any of that to happen..

Isn’t if funny.. life does not turn out just the way we want it.. we promise ourselves that we will do these things.. n not these things.. we wil say these but not these things.. etc., but at the end of the day at times we have said n done some things we didn’t even imaging of doing soo.. isn’t it ??? so I guess we all do get caught in that mix at times..


Apart from making right and wrong decisions in life lets see how the two00 nine been for my family… my sis cam back .. wel for her wedding.. n man..i was so glad n happy to see her after a long time… I knw it wil not mean a thing to you.. bt for someone who doesn’t know what sisters share n da bond they have growing up for 25+ years.. hmm.. that is something which is so wonderful.. anywys.. all went wel.. n she wnt back to her perfect little world.. and a pretty successful life too.. good luck sisy and keep going.. Brother got a promotion.. n went high in his salary scale.. I jst hope he wil continue and will go to the top.. he do have ambition and all those cunning skills.. hehehe.. so sure he will be.. Mom n dad … well they are getting old… I lve them so much and may they live longer lives .. im sure last year was a happy year for them as wel.. since with all those drama they managed to have sis’s wedding.. a parents dream coming true..



Wel.. as for me..hmmm….Im happy for the life I have got…. Im glad that I am living the life im given.. and so glad that I have some one special to share it all with … hopefully it wil continue.. yep.. alwys be positive... In short I had a good last year … fell in love.. found myself back.. learnt a lot from my mistakes.. some still repaying.. honestly felt who are my friends and who were the pretenders… mostly I would say that it was a learning year for me.. it wasn’t pretty … belive me.. it was hard.. but as they say..one day all that hard work is going to pay off … so im waiting…..






My dad kinda made a point saying that I don’t rember the good things in life.. da happy moments in life.. and all I remember is the sad moments.. true I do rember those..bt I do rembr the happy moments in my life too.. for last year… apart from falling in love.. going to see the Fishies.. watching movies.. the new year.. birthday celebrations.. going toRatnapura.. my sisters wedding… enjoying my moments at the beach.. are some to name a few.. and did u know that it was in 2009 I went to the Zoo for the first time ??? had my longest outstation bus ride ?? those might not be huge things to any of the others.. bt they are too me..


So do I want to live 2009 all over again ?? heheheh.. nope.. honestly I don’t want to .. simply because I am already looking forward to the new year to come.. to see how exiting it would be.. what life changing turns are there for me.... isn’t that a new year is all about ??

Take da world … do u think the world would want to have the same year this year as they had in the last year? We ended the damn war … we became a free nation.. we lost hundreds of good men.. innocent lives were taken… we all lived in fear.. for those who ha

d luck survived… and those who didn’t died.. I dnt want that year for this year too.. im glad it ended… don’t you ???


Speaking of losses . world did lost some big celebrets last year.. Mj, Stephen Gately (Boyzone), Quai Chan (Kung-Fu) –ok I dnt rember his real name.. …Briteny Murphy (8-miles) … n many more.. which I don’t rember the names right now..I guz that is what year is about.. you frame some days in to a calendar and live it n see what happens at the end of the day….. yep.. pretty exiting …


This year will be a good year for me.. and a happy one too.. how do I knw ? oh I don’t.. bt I belive it will be.. so I wish all of you from the bottom of my tiny heart that everything you wish and hope for to be true .. at least most of it..





20Ten here I come…. !!!